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ebony & ivory /12:59 PM

a few days i go i watched Grace is Gone. its about this man who has 2 daughters, and his wife serves in the US army, but was unfortunately killed in action. So the whole story was about how he brought them on a road trip before breaking the news to them. It depicted the struggles the man faced as a single parent to his 2 daughters- both while the wife was away and how he had to handle things when he learnt of his wife's death. Its a great movie in my opinion. It is very real, and its not like a happy-go-lucky show. Its very real and i liked the way they brought across certain ideas and things. The show has brought me to realise a few things that i've never specifically thought of before.

on their way to Enchanted Gardens (the final destination of the road trip), he travelled to his best friend's (i presume) house. By the way he only revealed the news to his kids on their way home. So, let me continue. He seeked solace and rest in his best friend's house. All the time he was suppressing his emotions, and when his best friend took his kids out for Dairy Queen leaving him all alone in his best friend's house, he just wept and wept and wept. Eventually, the best friend found out about his wife's death over the phone when he came back with the kids. He didnt tell the kids and went straight to the room to find the man. The best friend was so agonized at what the man was doing- bringing the kids on a holiday at this time?? The man didnt explain himself much and turned violent against the best friend for interfering with his family's affairs. The best friend got really frightened at the man's mental state, but both of them ended hugging each other in acknowledgement that things are so difficult and hard on the man, and he just needs to do what he himself deems fit to release and sort out his emotions. Peibei ah peibei. What went through your mind when we were 15. What was i like?

Theres another scene when the man was driving on the highway with one of his daughters -12 years old- sitting at the backseat doing a report about his wife for her assignment en route to Enchanted Gardens.
Man: "Why did your teacher ask you to write a report on your mom?"
Girl: "Well, she probably knows how its like when you know.. your mom is not around." (at this time she doesnt know about the death, but the mom has been away for very long in the battle field)
Man: "So.... what is it like?"
Girl: "You know how children feel when their moms arent around....?"
Man: "..........."
Girl: "They get like...... serious."

In a supermart, the man decided to let both his daughters get their ears pierced. The younger daughter -8 years old- was so happy and so pleased at the newest addition to her ears. So she pranced around the supermart alone and saw this other mother with her boy. She said very sweetly to her, "Hey, look i've just got my ears pierced. (: " And the mother replied, "Oh sweety thats very beautiful" and continued non-chalantly with her own shopping. The little girl felt so unimportand and so rejected, she went to hide in a little playhouse alone. It took quite a while for her dad and sister to find her eventually.

Regarding the older daughter, the teacher once complained to the man how she often falls asleep in class. During the trip, he found her slipping out of the hotel room alone late at night to spend some alone time. He was very worried when he woke up in the middle of the night to find that his daughter has gone missing. And when he finally found her, he said "is this why you're always falling asleep in class?" And she said "yes." i akin myself to this part of the show quite alot. i probably dont fall asleep in class, but i find myself stoning alone, walking around aimlessly quite alot sometimes. And so her dad said "alright, the next time you cant seem to fall asleep, just wake me up." and the girl was surprised, "you mean i can do that?" and the man said "sure! why not! in that way i can talk to you if thats what you need." my dad doesnt say that to me though, neither does my sister. thankfully i've some friends who would do that for me, and i really appreciate it. and i am willing to do this for my friends too, i am willing. (p.s. hey jess, <3) i might not be able to provide solutions, but i can provide a listening ear. hurhur if you need more ears i can turn on my loud speaker and let my chinchillas be involved and you might just be able to hear them making a wreck in the middle of the night. (:

well, when he finally told the girls the truth by a random deserted beach, they all cried. And oh my goodness, i felt so so so sad for them. you should've seen how they crieeeed. It ended with a scene of a eulogy given by the elder daughter. "Grace Amber Philips, born on 3rd October...." I was like !?!?!!!........... their mom had the same birthday as my mom... sad as i may be, i was reminded while writing my testimony that was shared on good friday, that God has reasons for taking her away. One of which, is the fact that He wanted to be a God of wenyi, not a God of wenyi's mom. I know God has healed my mom before, but whether or not that would have been the basis of my faith in Him, i am unsure. But God is sure. He didnt want me to build a faith in Him that is solely based on how He has helped my mom, He wanted to be MY God. And my God is He, I'm amazed at the things He has done for me.

The show has also shown me how i've neglected my dad's feelings all the while. yes, although circumstances are different, and he probably doesnt love my mom as much as the man in the show loved his wife, i am sure he has burdens too. All along, i was selfishly thinking how i was the main victim in the whole episode, because my dad probably wont care since he was divorced with her. but it has dawn upon me that hey, i'm still under his custody. and when my mom passed away, the responsibility is his and his alone, no longer shared. and yes even though my grandparents helped, a parent less is still a parent less, the burden upon each of them is just increased. i guess i need to contemplate on this for a while, and do something to show my appreciation for him and to apologize to him how i might have maligned him some times. Many times i really feel that he doesnt know how to show love. But this has taught me, that sometimes if i dont show love first, how can it be reciprocated? and ultimately, I can only love them first because God first loved me. He is my all and my source of everything. <3
(: I love my God.


side track, a joke shared by edmund wong who dropped by at our good friday party yesterday:
Edmund to friend: Hey its good friday today!
Friend to edmund: Last friday also not bad what.
Edmund: =.=

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wenyi
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